Statement on Racist Police Brutality, Violence, and Murder

Pride Community Services Organization (PCSO) of Lexington, Kentucky, which includes the Lexington Pride Festival, is saddened and sickened by the continued murders and injustices inflicted by the police upon Black, brown, and indigenous individuals and communities.At the core of our organization, we seek to create safe and inclusive spaces where all LGBTQ+ people are celebrated and supported, especially our Black, brown, and indigenous siblings. We cannot let these injustices pass by without condemning the way that the murders of Breonna Taylor (Louisville, Kentucky), George Floyd (Minneapolis, Minnesota), and Tony McDade (Tallahassee, Florida) are effects of police violence and structural inequalities like white supremacy.

The month of June is Pride month which celebrates LGBTQ+ people. This year marks the 51st anniversary of the Stonewall Riots in New York City. The riots consisted of several nights of street protests, property destruction, and occupation and is often marked as one of the events that kicked off the Gay Liberation Movement. Most importantly, Black and brown drag queens, gay and lesbian folx, and trans and gender non-conforming folx were at the center of the Stonewall riots. They were fighting back against the same police violence that continues to harm, silence, and threaten the survival of Black and brown people to this day. Quite simply, police violence and incarceration is an LGBTQ+ issue that disproportionately affects LGBTQ+ people of color.

The PCSO hopes that this month in particular you take pride in the actions you make – in whatever way you are able – towards fighting anti-Blackness, homophobia, transphobia, and white supremacy. We must hold individuals, organizations, and institutions accountable for their actions that perpetuate harm upon communities of color. We support the calls to action that seek to dismantle the systems of oppression (sexism, classism, ableism, nationalism, racism, cisgenderism, ageism, to name a few) to prevent this from happening again. As an organization, we plan to continue to listen to, learn from, and collaborate with communities of color to ensure that we are speaking up and out in ways that are wanted and needed.

We also plan to take direct action in working against racism by financially supporting efforts on the front lines of anti-racism organizing in our community. We have initially made a donation of $250 from our unrestricted operating funds to support The Lexington Bail Fund created by Black organizers at Lexington Housing Justice Collective to support people arrested at direct actions in Lexington. We will also compile a list of other local organizations led by people of color and share it in our email and social media communities to encourage others to donate funds to make change.

PCSO’s other direct actions will include anti-racism programming and education for our staff, volunteers, board members, and the community. Finally, we will continue to review our organization and programs, policies and procedures, and ways of operating toward eliminating racism and to increasing diversity, inclusion, equity, and belonging. We acknowledge that we still have work to do to become an anti-racist organization, that the work needed is not just tied to current events bringing racism to the forefront, and that our actions to this end will be ongoing.

In solidarity,

Pride Communities Services Organization

PCSO Pride Center Goes (Mostly) Virtual in Response to Coronavirus

The PCSO joins with our community in taking the Coronavirus (COVID-19) very seriously. We are doing our best to balance the needs of the LGBQ+ community (social and emotional support, connection, and resources like food) with the realities of preventing the transmission of COVID-19/Coronavirus that is an increased threat to many of the people we serve. Please see the following link for  more about what LGBTQ people need to know about the coronavirus. https://cancer-network.org/coronavirus-2019-what-lgbtq-people-need-to-know/.

In the interest of keeping our community, volunteers, and staff safe, the PCSO Pride Center will be changing our operating procedures for the coming weeks. Starting on 03/14/2020, the PCSO Pride Center will be closed to the public for drop-in visits. You can still reach us during our regular operating hours, Tuesday through Friday from 1:00 pm to 6:00 pm and Saturday from 11:00 am to 4:00 pm. If you need help finding resources, have questions about what’s happening in the community, or if you just need to talk to someone you can call us at 859-253-3233, email us at officemanager@pcsoky.org, or message us on Facebook. If we’re not immediately available we’ll get back to you as soon as possible.

We will continue to run our food pantry during this time. Food boxes will be available on Wednesdays. People who would like to pick up a food box, should call or email with a request. Food will be pre-packed and delivered by staff and volunteers to the door or car. We will be requiring all volunteers that work with the food to sanitize their hands before handling food and after each delivery.

We are also canceling or postponing some groups and events. These include:

  • LoveABLE Meetings, scheduled for Wednesdays at 5:30 – Canceled through April 7th
  • GSA Meetings, scheduled for Tuesdays at 6:30 – Canceled until April 7th
  • March SIP Dinner, scheduled for March 20th at 7:00 pm – Canceled
  • All About Isms Workshop, scheduled for March 21 at 4:00 pm – Postponed (new date TBD)
  • Transportation to Trans Wellness Summit, scheduled for March 28th – Summit has been postponed (new date TBD)
  • April TransKentucky Meeting, scheduled for April 4 at 7:30 pm – Canceled

At this time other smaller, weekly group meetings including LoveABLE, Heart to Heart, and SciFi and Horror Group will continue as usual. The PCSO Book Club will be meeting virtually this month. For more information join the Facebook Group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/2508444702758299/.  

We anticipate reopening the Center on April 7th. However, because the situation with the coronavirus is rapidly changing this date may also change. The schedule for ongoing group meetings may also change. We will update information on social media and our webpage as changes occur. 

The PCSO has supported the LGBTQ+ community in Central and Eastern Kentucky for over 40 years. We know the changes necessary to respond to the coronavirus can be anxiety producing and are interrupting regular routines and schedules. Rest assured, we will be here to serve the community through this challenge. Please reach out to us if you need help during this difficult time or if you are feeling isolated and just need to talk. You can call us at 859-253-3233 or email us at officemanager@pcsoky.org and we’ll get back to you as soon as we can.

Take good care of yourselves. Wash your hands. Check on your friends and neighbors. Breathe. Reach out if you need help. We are sending you all so much love. We will get through this together!

Guest Post: Self-Care Techniques for Taking Responsibility for Your Mental Health

Self-Care Techniques for Taking Responsibility for Your Mental Health

By Brad Krause

When I was younger, I thought personal responsibility was all about paying bills, getting health insurance, and getting my car inspected on time. As a result, I worked too hard, slept too little, and ate too much. First, I noticed a decline in my physical health. I gained weight, and I was always sleepy. But then something much more troubling began to happen. I started to have chest pains. After a trip to the emergency room and a lot of tests, it turned out to be anxiety. I hadn’t been taking care of myself, and my lifestyle had taken its toll. That’s when I learned that personal responsibility wasn’t just about fulfilling your commitments to the outside world. It’s also about making — and keeping — commitments to yourself. 

Self-care is, essentially, your responsibility. It encompasses everything you do to improve and maintain your own health, such as your exercise routine, diet, and supplements you take to feel good. However, it’s also the smaller stuff you do for your mental well-being: the time you take to relax, the techniques you use to manage stress, and the positive interactions you have with people. These basic things are often overlooked, but they are just as crucial to good self-care as the bigger stuff. 

Keep Stress Under Control

According to a 2017 Gallup Poll, 79 percent of Americans experience stress every day. This figure is staggering, though probably not surprising. We lead stressful lives, but most of us forget stress management is our own responsibility. While we should all be considerate of the mental health of the people around us — including friends, family, and coworkers — no one else can manage our stress for us.

There are many small ways you can work to keep your stress under control, including:

  • Taking time to slow down and focus on breathing when feeling overwhelmed
  • Practicing mindfulness and meditation on a regular basis
  • Getting enough sleep
  • Eating healthy 

If you have chronic pain issues, you can relieve your symptoms (and stress) by getting a massage or seeing a chiropractor or acupuncturist. Many health insurance policies have started to cover these types of alternative treatments. But if you’re a senior, you’ll likely need to pay out of pocket because Medicare doesn’t cover these treatments yet. 

If you’re struggling to keep stress-related conditions — like anxiety, depression, and/or insomnia — to a minimum, ask your doctor about taking CBD gummies. Studies have demonstrated that CBD has potentially calming effects without the ability to intoxicate the user. First-timers should start with gummies, since they can be more pleasant than oils or vapes. After talking to your doctor, make sure you study dosage and concentration of various CBD gummy products before settling on a brand.

Relax (Properly)

Telling someone to “relax” is not usually a good way to achieve said goal, but hear us out. While stress management is about equipping yourself to deal with stress when it occurs, regular relaxation is about more than that. Making relaxation part of your schedule gives your brain the downtime it needs to function properly and can even help it be more productive.

However, you need to do it the right way. Most of us have transformed our relaxation time into content-consuming time. According to CNN, Americans spend an average of 10 hours a day looking at media. Let that sink in. This may feel like what you need at the time, but research has shown that passive entertainment like TV is not the best way to relax. Instead, active hobbies that allow you to switch up your brain activity — like art, music, or crafting — are much more likely to put you in the right frame of mind for better mental health.

Of course, there’s nothing wrong with sitting down and enjoying a good movie every now and then. However, the trick is to avoid making this time unhealthy. So, find a flick you love, pop some popcorn (using a popcorn popper is much healthier than picking up pre-packaged bag), make some vegan nachos, and crash out. If those snacks don’t appeal to you, Fitbit has a list of other healthy alternatives that will make movie time a little less detrimental to your health. 

Watch Your Interactions

The ways we interact with the people around us are extremely important to our mental health. One self-care habit that is almost always forgotten is regularly evaluating our personal and professional relationships to see if they are negatively affecting us. It can be difficult or even painful to accept that our loved ones could be damaging our mental health, but letting it happen is even worse.

Just like with stress management, it’s on you to make your relationships healthy. You do this by setting healthy boundaries and establishing your expectations clearly. For example, if a coworker relies on you too heavily to help them, start politely saying no when you feel it is appropriate. If a friend is bringing you down with negative comments, make it clear the remarks are unhealthy for you; clearly set your own mental health needs. You will find people are generally willing to treat you the way you want if you tell them exactly what that is.

Mental health self-care is a relatively new concept, at least when it comes to mainstream discussions about health. This explains why many people are still unsure what it entails and how they can practice it. However, it’s actually deceptively simple: Self-care is about taking responsibility for your own well-being. In terms of mental health, this means not allowing the world to determine how you feel. You cannot always control the things that happen to you, but you can control how you prepare for and react to them. This alone can make a huge difference in your mental well-being.

 

Pride Prom 2017 on September 30

pride prom

Come out to our 3rd annual Pride Prom on Friday, September 30th 8 PM to midnight.

For the first time, the prom will be at LexArts at 161 N Mill St.

Join us for a night of food, fun, dancing and lots of other things!

Music by DJ Jace Byers

The prom is FREE, but please RSVP on our Facebook page if you plan to attend so we can prepare for how many.